Be courageous

                                                                                                                                     Growing up as an introvert was not easy, many times people misunderstood me, and it made me feel like there was something wrong with me. I become what people wanted me to be because I wanted to belong and be accepted. I became the opposite of who I have been created to be, it was tough. I ended up being a people-pleaser, and I was always feeling drained, I couldn't take it anymore, something had to change, self-discovery journey allowed me to work on this issue and I began to embrace my unique personality. What I wish people k...

                                                             Self-acceptance is when we accept everything about ourselves, whether positive or negative, this includes our physical and mental attributes. When we accept our negative qualities, it doesn't mean that we are not willing to change them, but it means we are aware of them, and this awareness will help us to work on our weaknesses. Why do we struggle to accept ourselves? Childhood experiences affect how much we are able to accept ourselves as adults, I grew up in a society whereby being different was not celebrated, the only option I had was to be like other children and these affected my sense of self. As an adult, I struggled to accept parts of myself because I was constantly trying to hide and suppressing myself. Self-discovery journey allowed me to learn to accept all parts...

  We are living in the world that is moving so fast, we can easily go with the flow and end up disconnected from who we really are. I believe it is important for us to create a daily routine, decide what needs to be on the routine. For me one of the most important thing I do is to check in with myself most of the time, this is part of my morning routine and the reason why I say most of the time is because life happens to all of us,  our daily routine can't be perfect, there will be days whereby we don't follow our daily routine and we don't have to beat ourselves up for not following it, however we need to be committed to it, this is why it is important to create a flexible routine.  We should be able to know how we are feeling emotionally, physically and spiritually and other areas of our lives, this will help us to identify our needs and we can be able to take care of those needs. When we don't take care of our own needs, we will find ourselves depleted and we don...

I remember growing up being told that I was shy and a quiet person, it felt like I didn't have to be that way, I went through life trying to fit in and be like other people, I didn't know that I was losing myself , and I encountered a lot of challenges, I became very miserable, I didn't understand why life was so confusing and painful. I knew something was not right, the year 2017 I was at my lowest point, I got into a depression and today I can say the depression was a blessing, I know it sounds weird, but the depression forced me to slow down, to stand still, listen and start asking myself uncomfortable questions. For the first time in my life, I began to spend time with myself, and I must say, it was the most uncomfortable thing to do, I had two choices to either embrace the discomfort or to run and distract myself by drinking alcohol to numb my feelings. I choose the discomfort and I am glad I did, one thing I learned about this time is that it is about the choices we m...

How often do we take time to reflect on our relationship with ourselves, we can get so busy that we forget to take time to check in with ourselves and end up disconnected from who we are. This disconnection comes with its own things, it will start showing up in our relationships with other people. I believe that it is impossible to have healthy relationships with other people if the relationship we have with ourselves is not healthy. I want to encourage you today to pay attention and start building a healthy relationship with yourself first and see how your other relationships start improving.