What I wish I knew in my 20s

                                                               


                       

There are a lot of things I wish I knew in my 20s, let me share with you the five lessons I wish I knew then.

  1. Know who you are- Going through life not knowing myself almost ruined my life, I didn't know what I wanted for my life, I was living life like I was a victim. We all know when the person doesn't know who they are, they are not able to make decisions for themselves. I was feeling stuck most of the time, I didn't have any clarity and I was always feeling a sense of emptiness. Discovering who we are requires courage, we need to confront parts of ourselves we might be scared of, heal past trauma, forgive ourselves for past mistakes, we need to be willing to do the work and become better version of ourselves.                                                                                             
  2. Stop comparing myself to other people- I used to look at what other people were doing, and sometimes I would do the same thing, not aware that I was not meant to do things like others. When we compare ourselves to others, we are taking away our power and this can leave us feeling frustrated, we need to embrace our own uniqueness.                                                                                                                                  
  3. Nobody is coming to save me- If I understood that nobody was coming to save me, I believe I should have taken a full responsibility for my life and that should have changed a lot of things. People in our lives are not responsible for the choices we make, they can give the support, at the end of the day it is up to each of us to work on our dreams, we need to show up for ourselves and stop waiting for someone to save us.                                                                                                                    
  4. Let go of the past- I did a lot of mistakes in my 20s and it took me some time to understand that I cannot change the past, I made those mistakes because I didn't know better and the best thing to do is to let go and learn from those mistakes. When we get stuck in the past, we are not able to see what is happening in the present moment, we end up missing opportunities that can change our lives.                                                                                                                                                      
  5. Stop worrying- I had a habit of worrying about almost everything, I would worry that something bad was going to happen to me, I was feeling anxious most of the time and most of the things I used to worry about never happened. I was able to overcome this habit by journaling all my worries, journaling helps me to feel mentally calm. We waste so much time worrying about the things that don't even exist, we make up negative stories in our minds and causes ourselves unnecessary stress. 
Now that we know better, we can realize we are not our past, we can work on ourselves and make better choices.  

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